It’s no mystery that men and women tend to think on two different ends of the dating spectrum.  To the women who have nailed it – our hats go off to you!  Although we may cringe in envy, we must commend you as we all know it was no easy feat.  But to those of us who are still lingering in the mystery zone of singledom and situationships, these 6 professional males (ages 23-30) have put together their own personal dating manual just for us!

Remember, every man is their own man with their own likes and dislikes.  If you find yourself trying to implement each of these tips in every situation, see #19 :).  However, there was one tip that EACH of our men suggested independently – #9.

Brace yourselves!  These gentleman were told to be open and uncensored.  Most importantly, they are eager to change our “erroneous” dating ways and finally rid of all confusion.  Let’s hear from our…

6 Men and Their 30 Dating Tips for Single Women

1. DON’T ASSUME that the person you’re going out with is the one that you will end up with for the rest of your life. You automatically put yourself in awkward situations by evaluating this stranger as your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. If you would just get to know them, spend time with them, and then decide that later…it would work out a lot better.

2.  BE CONFIDENT! Don’t worry about the next chic. If you know that I’m an attractive guy :) – don’t get mad at another woman showing me attention.

3. DON’T BE SO SENSITIVE. Women can be so literal – learn to take a joke!

4. BE A WOMAN OF GOD. We can’t coexist if we believe in two different things.

5. STOP LOOKING FOR ESTABLISHED MEN all of the time. Sometimes a man just needs a little push or motivation to get them going. Women always want the guy that has the house, car, big d***…not every guy is going to have that! Not having those things doesn’t necessarily make him a bad man, you know.

6. But DON’T BE INTIMIDATED by a strong man or one that has his stuff together; even if its the first one you’ve ever dated. You don’t have to act a certain way or try to be something other than who you are. Be yourself!

7. REALIZE YOUR WORTH. Your worth isn’t about how much money you have in your bank account. It’s about the woman that you are. It’s about how you behave and carry yourself – not just about materialistic thing. Realize your worth!

8. BE SECURE enough to be open and ready to embrace a good man. You can’t be open to a real man when you’re carrying issues from the past. And if you’re not ready for a good man or still have some things that you’re insecure about, work on yourself before messing up a good thing.

9.  TAKE THE INITIATIVE.  Offer to pay for a date…or half of it, even.  Help pick out the location – just help make a decision!  Or take ME on a date!

10.  DON’T MAKE ME CHASE after you too much.  I don’t have time for that.  If someone shows interest in you, its okay to show interest back.

11.  DON’T CONFUSE being a gentleman with being thirsty.  If I open the door for you, it doesn’t mean that I’m dying to have sex with you.

12.  DON’T JUDGE a book by its cover!  Being a good looking guy doesn’t mean that I’m a bad one.  I can be a good looking, great guy.  We exist!

13.  BE HONEST with what you want – no (guessing) games.  Men aren’t mind readers.  We aren’t going to know to do something just because you thought about it.

14.  STOP CHASING the high of dating.  Women love the honeymoon stage – but when it dies down, sometimes it feels as if her interest dies down with it.

15.  DON’T ASSUME every good looking or nice guy is a jerk (or on the split side of things – easy).  Just because a guy looks good and is nice to you, doesn’t mean that he’s trying to get in your pants OR get married tomorrow.

16.  DON’T JUDGE a man’s character off of the first date.  He’s nervous and trying to impress you.  That’s most likely not the real him!  The real him usually shows his face the second time around.

17.  OFFER to go dutch on the first date; it takes some of the pressure off.

18. There are clear warning signs of crazy or insane men.  STOP ACTING like you don’t see them!

19.  And SPEAK UP when you see these warning signs that throw you off!

20.  Don’t be afraid to ASK QUESTIONS about his character.  He should have answers!

21.  Wear LESS MAKEUP.  Don’t dress like a doll and not expect to get treated like a toy.

22.  NEVER TALK ABOUT OTHER GUYS to a guy you’re dating.

23.  Men love women with actual integrity!  MAKE A DECISION and follow through.

24.  If you do or say something to get a certain reaction, IT’S YOUR FAULT if you get a different reaction instead.

25.  Keep your NAILS done!

26.  Expect a man to lead but don’t expect him to do 100% of the planning or conversing.  It’s okay to INSERT YOURSELF INTO THE EQUATION.  If you have a suggestion, throw it in there!  A man shouldn’t have to do all of the work.

27.  YOU’RE NOT MY MOTHER.  I shouldn’t have to ask your permission to go somewhere and I shouldn’t have to tell you where I’m going.  It’s annoying.  And give me some space sometimes.  We don’t have to spend every waking moment together.

28.  Y’all talk too much.  It’s okay to SIT QUIETLY in the room without saying anything :)

29.  TAKE CHARGE a little bit! We like it.

30.  MORE BLOWJOBS.  It can never be a shortage.  If you think it doesn’t matter – that’s the problem.

Which of these did you find useful? Which were you surprised by? And which have you struggled the most with when dating?

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Sources and other media: 6 men (ages 23-30)