With Valentine’s Day behind us, are you still in the mood for love?!  Last month we heard from 6 men and their 30 dating tips for single women.  We LOVED IT but many women wanted the men to hear their voices and perspective too.  Consider it done!

These 10 women have teamed up to offer our men a collection of dating tips, sure to turn their dating lives upside down.  Remember, every woman is their own woman with their own likes and dislikes.  If you find yourself trying to implement each of these tips in every situation, you may find yourself disappointed.  You’ll just have to bite the bullet and get to know your lady, fellas :).  However, just like the men, there was one tip that JUST kept coming up – #6.  Enjoy!

ABlackRose of  A Black Rose Thrived, Author Cherie of All In The Name Of Love, Lauren Rorschach of Back In Stilettos Again, Jamie Lea of Just Jamie, Kelsey of How To Survive Modern Dating, Liz of Am I Thirty Yet, Nailah Shami of Better For That, Maranda R., Jackie E. and Sensational Whitney

BRING YOU: 

Dating Tips for Single Men

1.  PICK UP THE PHONE!  Calling and asking a woman out on a date never went out of style.  But…

2.  Try not to be too aggressive with texting and calling.  There is a difference in showing interest and being overwhelming.

3.  At some point though, you should CONVERSE WITH US before the actual date.  Not only will we be more comfortable when hanging out with you, but I bet you’ll find it a lot easier to come up with a creative date idea once you know what your girl likes!

4.  We love a man who can BE CREATIVE with date-planning!  Every interaction tells a woman what her future could look like with you and how willing you are to make an effort. You can do Netflix and takeout at your place further into a relationship, but for the first few months try to think of inventive ways to spend time together such as salsa lessons, film festivals or trying a trending new restaurant.

5.  If you can’t figure out anything creative, bouncing around ideas or asking for input is cool too.  At least HAVE AN IDEA of what you would like to do on your date.  In a perfect world, a girl would love to hear “wear a nice dress and some heels” or “wear gym gear and tennis shoes”…”I’ll pick you up at 8” or “meet me here at 7.”

6.  Ultimately we just want you to PLAN A REAL DATE guys. This is especially important in the beginning stages. Planning an actual date with somewhere to go is so much better than saying, “Let’s hang out. What do you want to do?”  Nothing is more annoying on a first date then having to spend a half hour discussing where to go and what to do.  We want to feel like you put some thought into it.  If you aren’t trying to make sure we have a great first night, then I doubt you will try to make sure we have a great relationship.

9.  Whatever you end up choosing, CONFIRM YOUR PLANS the day before!  No one likes to be stood up or be unsure about whether the date is still on.

10.  You can even REACH OUT THE DAY OF with a nice text saying “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or “looking forward to our date.”

11.  Both #10 and PUNCTUALITY makes a great first impression.  Be on time (or early).  We all know things happen; just be courteous enough to let your date know ahead of time if so.  No one wants to sit alone somewhere wondering if or when you will show up.

12.  When you show up, arrive clean and nicely dressed.  Let us see that you actually PUT SOME THOUGHT INTO YOUR APPEARANCE.  Don’t arrive in sweaty workout clothes as if you’ve just come from playing racquetball!

13.  Speaking of smells…PUT ON some cologne :). Trust me, nothing turns a girl on more than a guy that smells really good.

14. Except, of course when you GREET US by our name rather than a term of endearment.

15. It doesn’t hurt to COMPLIMENT US either.  Do you know how long it takes us to figure out what we’re wearing?  How we should fix our hair?  Which color lipstick to wear?  Or which fragrance you would enjoy? A LONG time! Hearing a simple “you look great” would make your girl feel as if it was all worth it.

16.  Because contrary to popular belief, CHIVALRY IS NOT DEAD. A woman loves nothing more than to be treated like a lady. Walk her to her car….open her car door…help her remove her jacket (or share yours if she’s cold).  Walk her to the door after the date…stand when she walks into the room…compliment her.  At dinner, let her order first.  We love flowers! Especially when sent to the  job for all of our co-workers to see. Call when you say you’re going to call.  Most importantly…when you are together, she gets the attention…not your phone.  

17.  In fact, just PUT THAT DANG CELL PHONE DOWN.  If you aren’t a doctor waiting for a call about an emergency heart transplant then you don’t have any reason to be on your phone throughout a date.  Do not Facebook check-in.  Do not IG what we are eating or drinking.  Do not Snapchat our conversation.  Do not check your phone – period!  Think of it like this… she could be anywhere in the world but she’s choosing to spend her time with YOU.  Let’s enjoy each other while we share the same space.

18.  Don’t worry, you are never going to offend a woman by BEING A GENTLEMAN.  If I’m trying to get to know the real you, I am going to be watching the way you treat everyone from the Valet to the bartender.  A person that is rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.  If I see that you treat people badly, I’m going to assume you will do the same to me later and move on.  And if you are constantly checking your phone, I’m going to take it that you aren’t interested and spend my time with someone who is.

19.  So really try listening to your date and PAY ATTENTION to what she has to say.  If she’s sharing her thoughts and feelings with you then it means she cares. If you find what she has to say annoying, then you probably shouldn’t be dating.

20.  And during conversation, please DO NOT GO INTO DETAIL about your past girlfriends or sex partners.  That’s not her business…yet :).

21.  I know, I know.  Most women say they can tell within the first 30 seconds of meeting a man if she will have sex with him or not.  Unfortunately, it’s none of your business if and when we will share our body with you. So again, please DON’T BRING UP SEX yet.

22.  Just RELAX and let nature take its course.

23. And you really shouldn’t assume that taking us out is always going to lead to us having sex.  Instead of making sex your main goal, FOCUS ON US getting to know each other better.  Genuine, intuitive efforts will entice and excite us even more!  Trust me – undivided attention is the best form of foreplay.

24.  I know, I know…attention is the norm for women. We get that everyday!  So yes, you do have to BRING YOUR A-GAME and BE DIFFERENT. We like excitement, confidence and a little challenge.  You don’t have to be a ” Bad Boy” but one thing’s for sure…You’ll never find a “Bad Boy” in the “Friend Zone” :)

25.  Speaking of bad boys’s…IF YOU ARE NOT SINGLE, please don’t date! No woman wants to discover after few dates that her potential boyfriend is somebody else’s man. Singer Bob Marley once said that “The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman’s love with no intentions of loving her.” Cheating rarely ends well, and it’s messy and unfair to put an innocent person in these compromising situations.

26.  So GIVE HER REASONS to like you, not despise you.  A man who thinks his best features are that he’s fine and he has a big wallet (even if it’s true) is the worst.  In a way that doesn’t feel like a performance, talk about your hobbies and interests, friends and family, memorable vacations, hopes and dreams, or maybe what you would do if you won the Powerball.